I’m up early again, 4:30am.
I woke to the sound of my toddler’s cries because she wet her bed. As I tenderly cleaned her up and changed her sheets, I made sure that she felt accepted exactly as she is, whether or not she stays dry through the night. No judgment, only love.
Now she’s sleeping again and I can’t get this thought out of my head:
How can I show that same unconditional love to myself?
Before proceeding any further, you should know that I’m fresh off reading two inspirational books: The Go-Giver and 365 Thank Yous. The first is a game-changing, quick-read parable about how selling is really giving; the second is about how cultivating gratitude can transform your life. I feel like a better person for having read these two gems.
My bottom line takeaway from them?
What you focus on is what you get.
This thought is so mind-blowing for me that I’m launching a year-long experiment to nurture abundance in my life, using the tools and frameworks these books offer.
To see what is possible when I focus on giving.
In a year’s time, I want to be in a completely different state of mind. I want to eliminate from my consciousness worries that close off creativity such as:
- Fretting about making ends meet and where my next business will come from
- Cramming everything into my week when there never feels like enough time
- Wondering if I’m good enough, and wanting to be thinner, prettier and better
- Agonizing about how to be a better mother and wife
Instead, I choose to be present, accepting and abundant with myself. To focus on what builds us up rather than what tears us down.
Here’s how I plan to do it.
I’ll focus my attention on:
- Choosing to see the good in life first, engaging in each moment and letting the future take care of itself
- Putting out positive intention for what I want and opening my heart to receiving good outcomes
- Taking fine care of my body and mind
- Doing what feels creative and fun and turning away from what feels dull or outdated
- Being grateful for what I have and thanking people who bless me with their support
- Loving my family and never giving up on relationships with key people in my life (including myself)
And I’ll spend my time:
- Providing extraordinary value for others, professionally and personally
- Developing ways to touch more peoples’ lives
- Investing in relationships with like-minded people, concentrating on their needs and helping them succeed
- Finding ways to show up authentically and give of myself
- Being open to receiving gifts and value from others
When I hit obstacles, I’ll bring my attention back to what’s important. And, I will be kind to myself: I’m laying down new neural pathways, learning a new way to be in the world. It will take practice.
What a thrilling realization to know that I have what it takes to live the life I desire.
Where will this lead?
What will be possible?
I feel a sense of excitement.…And honestly, a bit of fear (which lets me know I’m on the right track).
Want to join me in this journey?
I would love some company.