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Think of Career Missteps as Failing up

It happens to all of us. We all have what we think of as failures, or missteps in our career (and our life). Whether we: Took a job that wasn’t a good fit Stayed too long in a toxic work environment Put out a program that didn’t take off in the market Crossed our boss, or Didn’t perform as expected and therefore got overlooked for promotion or even dismissed We tend to carry the scars – and often, the shame – of these experiences going forward. In fact, they can color how we feel about ourselves in…

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10 Steps to Move Past Self-Imposed Limitations (Part II)

If you are up against something that makes you feel stuck, check out all my steps to help you move toward your goal. This is a continuation from my post last week. You can find steps 1-5, here. 6. Divide your stuck project into baby steps. If there is a particular area in your life that feels super stuck, it can feel like a mountain you are trying to climb. If you are feeling overwhelmed, you can divide the project into small chunks, and then with some prioritizing define a pathway to follow to tackle things one…

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Big Scary Goals

I’ve been noticing a pattern, lately, with my clients…and myself. We all have a big scary dream that makes us shake with excitement and fear. Whether it’s: Writing a book Going back to school Running a half-marathon Letting go of excess weight Finding work that is more fulfilling, or Launching a new product or service We all have something we dream about accomplishing that scares the crud out of us. Can you relate? What I do know is when you come across the dream that makes you quake in your boots, it is a sign that you…

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What to do When You Feel Like a Failure

I’ve been thinking a lot about failure lately. It tends to be something that we don’t like to think about too much. It is easy to think that other people are perfect, that they don’t make mistakes. The reality is that we all fail sometimes. In fact, I can’t imagine how it would be possible to not fail because there is so much that were faced with on a daily basis—literally hundreds of micro-decisions to make in a day: what to eat, what to wear, what time to get up, whether or not to exercise, whether or…

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My Team Mate, My Husband

Several days this past week I’ve woken in the middle of the night mid-dream. The dream takes various forms: I’m lost in a building and can’t find my way out, or I’m trying to check out of a hotel but can’t pack my things fast enough to check out in time, are a couple of examples. I wake up in a sweat, and have trouble going back to sleep. My sleep has not been restful these past few weeks. When I think about these anxiety dreams, logically, I know where they come from. They are about all…

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A Wish For The New Year: Honoring Myself

I am going to get a bit personal today, to take a chance to express my internal longings for the double-purpose of saying out loud what I long for and also helping you connect with what you personally crave for your life, too. Here goes. I feel like a brilliant diamond that is covered up, not quite visible or glowing the way it has the potential to be. Mired down in the muck of feeling scared and limited in my skin, I find I’m not sure how to be who I really am. How to be myself…

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Fear: The #1 Barrier To Career Change

Do you have unfulfilled dreams? If yes, please join me for my interview with career consultant Louise Goeckel on: Fear: The #1 Barrier To Career Change Wednesday, 9/16 @ 11:30 am PT / 2:30 pm ET Reserve your spot for this no-cost event here. To fulfill unrealized dreams you need to make some changes. The biggest challenge we face when making changes is fear, and it’s cousin, resistance. This interview is an insider’s look at how to bust through fears so that you can achieve your ideal life and career. Louise will share some of her most successful approaches for helping professionals get…

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When a Door Closes, a Window Opens

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about endings. Endings of jobs, personal relationships, life stages, business relationships, and other transitions. My clients deal with all types of endings in their lives and they come to me for support. I find in my clients – and observe in my own life – that endings can feel scary and produce a great deal of grief and suffering. I see why this happens. Whether we’ve decided to let something go, or it has been taken from us against our wishes, the familiar pressures, patterns, and ups and downs of routine…

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Move Forward by Listening to Your Intuition

Go with your gut is my mantra these days. Recently I hired an Executive Assistant. It was something I put off for a long time. My intuition told me that it was the right decision for me, but I talked myself out of hiring someone to work solely for my business, in-person by my side. I gave myself reason after reason about why I shouldn’t do it…even though, all the while, deep down, my gut was telling me that it was the right choice for me. Finally, after resisting for years and trying other solutions to my…

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The Ebb and Flow of Strong Emotion

There is an image that helps me weather times of intense emotion, such as fear or sadness, and I’d like to share it with you. Perhaps it will resonate and help you in times of stress, too. My favorite beach in Maui is Napili Bay, a beautiful small crescent of sand and surf with a view of neighboring island Molokai. When I’m there, I wade in past the breaking waves to a spot where I am up just up to my neck in the water but I can still touch. The sandy bottom has no rocks, so…

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